Married or Single

married or singleI was in a market that I frequent the other day and something happened that got me thinking about this topic. Now it is not the first time that I have given some thought to this topic but I concluded it was about time I put pen to paper or to be more correct fingers to the keyboard.

Now this market is just great with all sorts of things that are different and for my many American readers it is really like a small whole foods. I was looking for Vanilla of all things and could not find any so standing just near me was a woman, I guess in her thirties, also selecting treats so I asked her if she had come across any vanilla. No she had not but she then preceded to go look for some and this lead to a conversation as sometimes it does, so there we were blocking the isle chatting away.

I think the place was pretty busy but I was totally unaware as I was talking to a beautiful young woman which I must confess I really enjoy doing. So finally we locate the Vanilla and as she reaches up to grab a bottle from the shelf for me I notice that there is no ring on the finger and no mark where one might have been. Now I realize this is pretty shallow but the interest does increase after seeing this and we chat some more before finally we say good bye, but not before she tells me that it has been a real treat for her chatting and then we part company, me with my ego boosted some what I might add. It was a Friday evening and she was buying for herself and dining alone that evening I was able to at least find that out. What a pity I thought that I was not a tad younger. lol

I  am certainly not in the market for a relationship of any kind and in fact I have been told many times that I have commitment phobia but that does not stop one enjoying a chat with a beautiful woman and the fact that she was single made the experience just that more enjoyable. I do get asked all the time when I am at functions if I am single and the more I think about that the more I can see just as with me in the market it makes a difference how to conversation flows.

I recall some years ago, I was flying from Dublin to Chicago. In those days I maintained homes in both Ireland and the US so I did the run across the pond with Air Lingus every three months give or take. I usually wait until everyone is seated before I get on board and this time as I went in search of my seat I could see the plane  appeared close to full. Well the Gods were smiling on me for the person sitting next to me was a beautiful woman from Chicago and yes I noticed very early on that she was not wearing a ring.

How early did I hear you say? Well I can’t recall exactly but I am sure it was well before we took off. So I must confess the run over to the States that particular day was most enjoyable and it really made the time fly, pardon the pun. So would it have been different if she had of been married? Well yes it would. I still would have been happy to chat just the same but something would have not been the same I feel, especially when it came to the topic’s we covered . On approach to O Hare we did exchange email addresses and I did drop her a line once or twice but we never did catch up again which tends to be pretty much how these things play out don’t you think?. So why then I ask myself, should it be all that different just because we were both single, but it was and it is.

Now to all you girls out there if you bump into an oldish guy at your local market looking for Vanilla while at the same time he is looking at your wedding band finger, just beware.



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